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Living Joyfully with Unschooling
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Come explore unschooling with me!
Choosing to live and learn without school isn’t as intimidating as you might imagine. Children really do love and enjoy learning when it’s driven by curiosity rather than curriculum, and the lifelong relationships that develop in unschooling families are priceless.
I'm Pam Laricchia, author of five books about unschooling, host of the Exploring Unschooling podcast (with more than 300 episodes in the archive and listeners in more than 80 countries), and co-host of the Living Joyfully Network online community. Over the last fifteen years, I've helped countless parents learn the ins and outs of unschooling and cultivate strong, connected, and trusting relationships with their children and partner.
My website: livingjoyfully.ca
The Living Joyfully Network: livingjoyfully.ca/network
Exploring Unschooling Podcast: livingjoyfully.ca/podcast
My free intro to unschooling ebook: books2read.com/whatisunschooling
Choosing to live and learn without school isn’t as intimidating as you might imagine. Children really do love and enjoy learning when it’s driven by curiosity rather than curriculum, and the lifelong relationships that develop in unschooling families are priceless.
I'm Pam Laricchia, author of five books about unschooling, host of the Exploring Unschooling podcast (with more than 300 episodes in the archive and listeners in more than 80 countries), and co-host of the Living Joyfully Network online community. Over the last fifteen years, I've helped countless parents learn the ins and outs of unschooling and cultivate strong, connected, and trusting relationships with their children and partner.
My website: livingjoyfully.ca
The Living Joyfully Network: livingjoyfully.ca/network
Exploring Unschooling Podcast: livingjoyfully.ca/podcast
My free intro to unschooling ebook: books2read.com/whatisunschooling
Curiosity-Led Learning, Episode 368
In this episode, Pam, Anna, and Erika talk about curiosity-led learning. We thought this would be a fun topic to dive into during this back-to-school season! Focusing on curiosity-our own and our kids'-can be so grounding.
In this episode, we explore the definition of learning, how school-based learning looks different than learning through unschooling, and how we've seen curiosity at play in our families.
We hope you find our conversation helpful on your unschooling journey!
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SHOW NOTES & TRANSCRIPT: livingjoyfully.ca/blog/2024/08/eu368-curiosity-led-learning/
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In this episode, we explore the definition of learning, how school-based learning looks different than learning through unschooling, and how we've seen curiosity at play in our families.
We hope you find our conversation helpful on your unschooling journey!
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SHOW NOTES & TRANSCRIPT: livingjoyfully.ca/blog/2024/08/eu368-curiosity-led-learning/
CHECK OUT THE LIVING JOYFULLY SHOP: livingjoyfullyshop.com
FREE BOOK TO LEARN MORE ABOUT UNSCHOOLING: livingjoyfullyshop.com/produ...
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The Abundance Mindset, Episode 367
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In this episode, Pam, Anna, and Erika explore the abundance mindset. We often find ourselves thinking about abundance versus scarcity in conversations on the podcast and in the Living Joyfully Network. In this episode, we dive into the many ways that shifting to abundance has helped us and our families with creative problem solving. We hope you find our conversation helpful on your unschooling ...
Talking Consent with Sara Davidson, Episode 366
Просмотров 1363 месяца назад
Pam and Anna are joined by Living Joyfully Network member Sara Davidson to talk about what she's been learning about consent. Sara was previously on the podcast in episode 312. It was great to hear her family updates and to dive deep into the topic of consent. We talked about four different types of consent, enthusiastic, willing, unwilling, and coerced, and Sara shared some stories that illust...
The Independence Agenda, Episode 365
Просмотров 1193 месяца назад
In this episode, Pam, Anna, and Erika dive into a very interesting lens on parenting-the independence agenda. It's fascinating to see how this seemingly reasonable goal of fostering our children's independence can get in the way of not only our relationship with them, but their developing self-awareness and inner voice. We talk about how different people really are, define the terms independenc...
Stumbling Blocks: Including Kids in Decisions, Episode 364
Просмотров 1854 месяца назад
We are back with another episode in our Unschooling Stumbling Blocks series and we're talking about including kids in decisions. There are many reasons why parents may rush through big decisions without giving children a chance to weigh in, but we've found that including kids in decisions provides us with useful questions and information, helps avoid dysregulation and melt downs, and results in...
Deschooling, Episode 363
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Deschooling is a bit of a buzzword in homeschooling and alternative education spaces at the moment. So, let's dive in! Pam, Anna, and Erika talk about the definition of the word, what that transition to unschooling can look like for parents and adults, the importance of letting go of expectations, some of the paradigm shifts that happen during deschooling, and how deschooling is something that ...
On the Journey with Kendel Ricker, Episode 362
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We’re back with another On the Journey episode! We had a delightful conversation with Living Joyfully Network member Kendel Ricker. Kendel is an unschooling mom of two kids, 11 and 9, and she shared some of her journey with us. Kendel's own education included homeschooling, private school, and public school, as well as university and teachers' college. Her experiences allowed her to really come...
Siblings, Episode 361
Просмотров 1335 месяцев назад
In this episode, Pam, Anna, and Erika explore the sibling dynamic and some of the questions that come up when unschooling families navigate sibling relationships. We talk about letting go of expectations, watching out for casting our children in roles, understanding our own triggers, and how "fair" doesn't mean "equal." We hope you find out conversation helpful on your unschooling journey! SHOW...
What's So Magical About Age 18?, Episode 360
Просмотров 1706 месяцев назад
What's so magical about age 18? Pam, Anna, Erika, and our guest Erin dig into the transition from childhood to adulthood and what it means for our unschooled kids. It's common for parents to bump up against some cultural beliefs about this phase of life and inadvertently put expectations on young adults. Strangers, friends, and family also all seem to be interested in the choices that our kids ...
Unschooling Stumbling Blocks: Quitting vs Sticking It Out, Episode 359
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In this episode, we are starting a new series called Unschooling Stumbling Blocks, where we talk about common challenges on the unschooling journey. For this first stumbling block, Pam, Anna, and Erika talk about "quitting" vs "sticking it out." This idea comes up in parenting regardless of whether you're unschooling or not. Do we need to teach our children to persevere? If we paid for lessons ...
On the Journey with Jahaira Luzzi, Episode 358
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This week, we’re back with another On the Journey episode. Pam and Erika are joined by Living Joyfully Network member Jahaira Luzzi. Jahaira is an unschooling mom of two, ages 6 and 8, and a former early childhood educator. We talk about Jahaira's path to unschooling, including her exploration of various types of elementary schools after she left college. We also dive into the spiritual aspects...
Building Community, Episode 357
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In this episode, Pam, Anna, and Erika dive deep into building community. As we regularly mention, people are different, and each member of your family will likely have different needs for community, friendship, and social time. We talk about in-person versus online connections, the value of interest-based communities, some of the many different ways we've found community during our unschooling ...
Unschooling "Rules": About Food, Episode 356
Просмотров 1778 месяцев назад
We're back with another episode in our Unschooling “Rules” series. And we use the word “rules” in quotes to draw attention to the fact that there is no such thing as an unschooling rule! It can feel easier to reach for a set of rules to follow, especially when we’re learning something new, but we want to offer you space to look within, to find what makes sense to you and what makes sense to the...
Unschooling "Rules": Freedom Leads to Self-Regulation, Episode 355
Просмотров 2469 месяцев назад
We're back with another episode in our Unschooling “Rules” series. And we use the word “rules” in quotes to draw attention to the fact that there is no such thing as an unschooling rule! It can feel easier to reach for a set of rules to follow, especially when we’re learning something new, but we want to offer you space to look within, to find what makes sense to you and what makes sense to the...
Unschooling "Rules": Unschoolers Should Never Divorce, Episode 354
Просмотров 22510 месяцев назад
This week on the podcast, we’re sharing a new episode in the Unschooling “Rules” series! The word “rules” is in quotes, of course, to draw attention to the fact that there is no such thing! When we’re learning something new, it can feel easier to reach for a set of rules to follow, but we want to offer you space to look within and find what makes sense to you and your family. Our goal with this...
Redefining Success and Parent-Child Relationships
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Redefining Success and Parent-Child Relationships
Unschooling "Rules": Unschooling is Child-Led, Episode 353
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Unschooling "Rules": Unschooling is Child-Led, Episode 353
The Sparkle of Unschooling, Episode 138 Flashback
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The Sparkle of Unschooling, Episode 138 Flashback
Unschooling "Rules": Unschoolers Are Always Happy, Episode 352
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Unschooling "Rules": Unschoolers Are Always Happy, Episode 352
Bringing It Home: Navigating Technology, Episode 351
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Bringing It Home: Navigating Technology, Episode 351
On the Journey with Sarah McMackin, Episode 350
Просмотров 262Год назад
On the Journey with Sarah McMackin, Episode 350
Unschooling "Rules": Unlimited Screen Time, Episode 349
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Unschooling "Rules": Unlimited Screen Time, Episode 349
Bringing It Home: Staying Up Late, Episode 347
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Bringing It Home: Staying Up Late, Episode 347
On the Journey with Cassie Emmott, Episode 346
Просмотров 280Год назад
On the Journey with Cassie Emmott, Episode 346
EU345: Unschooling "Rules": No Bedtimes
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EU345: Unschooling "Rules": No Bedtimes
Bringing It Home: Navigating Lessons, Episode 343
Просмотров 248Год назад
Bringing It Home: Navigating Lessons, Episode 343
Helping Kids Find Their Passion, Episode 342
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Helping Kids Find Their Passion, Episode 342
EU341: Unschooling "Rules": Don't Use Curriculum
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EU341: Unschooling "Rules": Don't Use Curriculum
This is so helpful for a new unschooling mom here! So excited for this journey
Yay!! I'm so excited for you!
I feel so strongly to do unschooling...letting go of fears that people project on me and focusing on knowing my kids and creating a strong bond with them ❤
Yes, when starting out it can be helpful to focus on your kids, imagining a bit of a bubble around you all that keeps the outside noise at bay for a while. ❤️
Love this!!
My child is trying to learn skateboarding tricks and is getting quite frustrated. I feel alittle uncomfortable about bx I want to help but not sure how. I guess I'll start by watching some skateboarding videos ❤
Sounds like a great start! You may be able to share the info the videos are trying to explain in a language that better fits your child. You may be able to find other skateboarding channels that resonate more directly with him. You can validate his frustrations, maybe sharing times when you had a similar experience. Maybe you have a skateboard park or two within driving distance, where he'll see other kids trying tricks over and over, to varying levels of frustration-it's all part of the learning process with physical skills. Just a couple of ideas to get the creative juices flowing! ❤️
Furthermore, in University we are still forced to learn and pay to learn things that are not part of our majors. I hope they do away with that in such a way that people can start earning masters degrees within the 2 or 4 years after high-school
Very helpful, thank you ladies!❤
Glad it resonated with you! ❤️
I’m having trouble finding social opportunities for my daughter. Creating them didn’t work in the form of clubs,we don’t go to church, classes,coops…etc. this is a huge hurdle that wasn’t there when she was younger but is at age 13. We live in a semi rural situation as well. Her siblings are older and grown now. Please help.
Is your daughter keen for more social opportunities? It's useful to check in with our kids before deciding they need something. We found connecting with other kids often came from pursuing things my kids found interesting-the social side of it came along for the ride. They were doing something they liked, and they were doing it alongside others who also enjoyed it, that gave them a shared interest / connection point to start conversations etc. without the pressure of "find friends" or "being social." And if you're creating a club around one your daughter's interests, things can take time to unfold. I have a blog post, Finding Friends, that may be related, if you're interested: livingjoyfully.ca/blog/2014/01/finding-friends/
Thank you , Pam! Greetings from Romania :)
😂 I love talking about the menstrual cycle, too! It's nice to hear someone else mention that as an intriguing topic of conversation
I love the idea of unschooling. I don't love the idea of my kids not knowing math or how to read by the time they're 18. Is there a balance? And to be fair, i'm talking about special needs kids who may not "accidentally" learn to read or who may always hate math.
Because words and numbers are all around us, even if they don't want to "sit down and learn" reading and math, they will be engaging with them many times over the years and learning what they need to move through their days. Basic math skills to play games or cook/bake food. Money skills to save for/buy/return things. Reading skills for playing games, reading and writing skills to engage with people online who have the same interests etc. Thinking of them as "accidentally" learning things may be misleading. We definitely help and support them learning those kids of skills-any skills that help them pursue the things they want to do. But instead of using curriculum to dictate when and workbooks to dictate how, we can help them when the need for the skill comes up (it has meaning then) and in the ways they personally like to learn things. It seems "accidental" because the need for the skill "just came up." But that's the point. The opportunity to engage with words and numbers will come up lots over the years. I think our challenge is not to put expectations on the timetable of their learning. Kids learn to read over a WIDE range of ages. And how does one define "knowing math"? Having math skills to navigate everyday encounters with numbers? Calculus? That too is a wide range. I think leaning in and knowing your unique child, helping your child accomplish the things they want to do, will help you feel more comfortable with their skills than any outside measures.
So what if we do know what they are on for hours at a time and it's things like ASMR videos watching people tap on things that just seems like wasted time and dumbing kids down
I love that you said "seems like." When I was feel perplexed about things my kids were choosing to do/play/watch I tried to get curious about what they were liking about the thing. Ask them (with curiosity, not judgement). Learn more about the thing so you can have some ongoing conversations. In my experience, once I've learned more about the topic and what my kid enjoys about it, it makes sense to me and no longer feels like "wasted time." ASMR videos are so interesting! What kinds do they like? There are so many. If it's a particular kind, what about that topic is interesting to them? If it's all sorts, maybe it's a sensory thing. Does it feel relaxing or grounding when they watch/listen? Are they doing other things while having the video on? I'm one who enjoys having videos on while I'm doing other things, it actually helps me focus (right now I have a video on that's video game music). People are so different. Your child may be getting things out of the experience that you can't yet imagine. And if they aren't up for chatting about it, look for information and clues through observation, research etc. If they're drawn to it, there's some reason.
I started homeschooling my 12 yo this year. I wish I had been given this opportunity as a child. I feel like my life was postponed by conventional education. my heart hurts for the children who will grow up believing they are bad or dumb when in truth they are just in an environment that does not favor their genius
I'm so happy you get to experience it now. Have fun!! 😀
My youngest child wants so many things lol to ride go karts , to have guinea pig business , horse lessons and more ...I get overwhelmed but I try to stay open to possibilities ..I have 3 kids so just trying to juggle ❤ I love this podcast
Our kids really do invite us to stay open to the possibilities, don't they? And thanks! So glad the podcast resonates with you. ❤️
I think consent (or lack thereof) was the final straw/reason for choosing unschooling and not just home-schooling... someone astutely compared conventional schooling to a prison sentence with the same lack of consent in most of the activities. That blew my mind and I realized why I always thought it's the school system itself that's problematic not just specific schools or type of schools.
It's such a foundational difference, isn't it?
@@LivingJoyfullywithUnschooling I agree. Conventional schooling really only prepares students for "servitude" in the classic labor market. Thank you for your interesting discussions and opening the conversation regarding LEARNING as opposed to "schooling".
What i notice is just how much the indepenðence rhetoric is fueled by fears of what if's ...thank you guys for always bringing a sense of connection and peace to it all
Yes, so many fears about the future!
Thank you so much for this. Had a few aha moments - I have been unschooling a long time now, and only my eldest ever attended school briefly, and that was after a spell of unschooling, and my younger four have never been to school. Yet after all this time, and despite being thoroughly invested in the journey, I still have some deschooling to do myself. I still carry beliefs or concerns I thought I had left behind long ago - and I definitely need to start giving myself permission to act more like my kids do! I am a homemaker and full time with my kids, obviously, and I realise that I constantly equate my own worth to how much I “get done”, in a culture of “get it all done”…. Which is terrible for building relationships according to their own schedule and in an unhurried way, yet that is the whole point. I struggle with constant chores etc and am always putting off reading that book or doing that project as I first need to “get the work done”. I can see how much I need to address this, for the good of my whole family, and it is something for me to work on in earnest! Love and light 💖
Love your aha moments! And yes, the whole culture of "get it all done" is definitely worth examining. Not only exhausting but, as you've noticed, also hard on relationships. 💖
We had a traumatic move where i had abruptly leave the house with my kids . It felt awful because it was where my kids grew up and they had to leave their bestvfriends behind. Although i helped them to continuecto visit their friend, it was not thecsame. They left all their things behind with no choice in the matter and i do feel sad about that. ❤
I'm sorry, that sounds so hard for everyone. And you can validate the sadness, and listen so they feel heard and understood around it all. Remember to do that for yourself too. ❤️
@@LivingJoyfullywithUnschooling definitely!
I apprecitae your videos, thanks for sharing!
Thank you all for doing this show and bringing these points to light for folks who are not happy with the Public education system and are looking at homeschooling. I hope this helps families find the confidence to take the step out of the system.
You're welcome! It's amazing to even realize that it's a choice, isn't it? 😀
I really love and appreciate your videos ❤
Thank you! ❤️
Thank you! 🙏🏻🩷
Love the carpenter and gardener reference ❤
All the activities mentioned sound pretty spectacular to me 😂 i totally get feeling like u need to things that sound impressive to others. I have to be careful not to compare myself to other unschooling moms as well
I moved out at 18 and got married at 19 to my hubby (married almost 18 years now 🎉) but our oldest who is about to be 13 says she wants to live with us forever lol I’m happy to keep my kids home as long as they need I personally needed to leave I was more than ready
I am only six minutes in and I love this conversation. My example is my daughter who is 14. She took two years of piano lessons with a teacher...and loves piano. However, she no longer practices as she should per her teacher. My daughter wasn't sure if she wanted to continue. I gave her permission to quit. She still struggled with the decision on whether to continue on or not. It was when I said...you are just taking a break. It doesn't have to be permanent. You can always get back into piano when you are ready. This is just a break. That wording...Break...was exactly what she needed to hear. That it's not quitting. She decided to take the break and is so much happier now.
I love that example! And it's so true, quitting doesn't have to be permanent-it's a break of undetermined length. 😀
I love this channel. Lately, I've been resonating with sitting back and observing my child rather than stepping in in any sort of way (unless they are emotionally at their witts end or come to me for help). There have been many aha moments that everything they do is practice. I reeeaally don't want to barge in to correct them when they're feeling it in their body and will continue to adjust as they grow. It was an aha moment when I heard you talk about the child naturally learning to eat and walk. I'm there, supportive, encouraging, but I'd never say, "No! Don't step your foot down like that. Set it down like this!" So it makes sense to continue to trust them. My 3 year old is medically complex. Hearing you talk about building the relationship so when you've got to do things they don't want to do (scheduled meds/water, pokes and prods, way more) they trust that they're heard and they trust you as a parent. I often wonder how to help my child learn consent over their body when they need so much medical intervention. I'm really starting to feel that living an unschooling life can give them the opportunity to live their best life.
The whole “equality” conversation is a big big bear of mine and I am so grateful you explored it here. Nobody is equal! I get a lot of hate for that! We are all different and require different things. Understanding that is the only way to be just and fair. My eighteen month old needs totally different things to my fifteen year old - to treat them equally would be wholly unfair. It’s the same socially - and one of the reasons I hate rules. Rules are about equality, not fairness. I could go on! We are equivalent, not equal. We make different choices and have different needs - but these are equivalently valuable. Thank you for another supportive and thought provoking conversation. Much love.
Hey Pam! Can you point me to any of your videos or links that talk about handling hygiene with your child ? Thanks
I love the light you bring to the idea that equality doesnt necessarily equate to fairness. Although the intent for people using this idea of equality is for the intention of trying to be fair.
Yes another milestone where societys conditioning is strong. These videos are great anchors to help us when those seasons come
Im glad she addressed the topic of young adults and drugs. I was wondering if there was anyone out there who unschooled and experienced their young adult become drug addicts (although i know that did not happen with the interviewee)
I don't know of any personally, but I think the question of young adults becoming drug addicts is bigger than whether or not they went to school. In other words, I don't think unschooling is a red flag for becoming addicted to drugs. I feel like it can perform a more protective role, if anything, because the parent's relationship with their child is the priority.
Great interview. I did forced learning to read with my first 2 and my 3rd whonis 8 resists the forced reading like no other. Thankfully now I am learning about unschooling and knowing that my child can abd will know how to read without being forced
So glad it resonated! And yes, sometimes it's the resistant ones who inspire us to look for other possibilities. 😃 Have you come across my learning to read conversation with Anne Ohman? I think you find it helpful as well: ruclips.net/video/5Uq3_o1ZXw8/видео.html
I thought feeling fear when things were going "good" was just me lol 😂it's an actual thing ..I definitely dont want that belief anymore bc it doesn't serve me❤
Right?? 😂
Homeschoolong/unschooling is such a gift ❤
This conversation is one I feel most parents can talk about forever. There are ao many personal preferences when it comes to sleeping, that's for certain. Ive always been a person that has to have 8 hours to function and 10 optimally, then along came my son who is about to turn 10. Once he is asleep he sleeps so good but I can count the number of times he has just ever passed out on one hand! Anyways, in regards to either a comment I read or someone saying, "it's not like anyone is trying to stay awake all night...". We just experienced this a couple of days this week and he did do it because he could and to see how things would play out after 😂 Love the podcast and the unschooling camaraderie here! Would love to here your experience with people who only try to relate to your kid by having them perform or offer up social experiences with public school students, books to read, all things "school" related that feels very stifling and non-accepting of unschool/homeschool as an alternative lifestyle.
Finding community has been a sore thumb for me haha we participate in library things ect But finding a community has been challenging
It is something that ebbs and flows, I think. I do find being intentional about it helps. Understanding in some detail what it is that I am (or my kids are) looking for when it comes to community and just keeping that lens top of mind as I go about my days, has helped me notice opportunities that would typical not catch my attention. It can also take time for things to blossom.
Food is such a fraught and emotive issue isn’t it. Like everything with unschooling - it’s a learning curve of relational and relationship integrity. Full disclosure - for various reasons early on in motherhood I became very interested in nutrition and then, through this lifelong process of unschooling myself (!), I have become pretty deeply informed about many angles of nutrition including lots of theories round the various fad diets out there and so on…. I know a lot. I have a big supplement cupboard and a handle on the finer points of micronutient intakes… This is for context. I care deeply about nutrition and am personally a bit of a “health nut” around food….. so I am definitely that Mum who people might assume would be “my kids are going to grow up ripping raw kale from my kitchen garden and nibbling it and we will make raw clean energy balls together and tofu scramble…. There will be no packets or junk and I will make sure they understand how important ‘healthy’ eating is….” But am I that mum? No!! There’s plenty ice cream for breakfast in my house but you know what? That’s cool. I bought the ice cream and put it there, and they have joyful mornings. Recently my autistic teenager whose food journey has been extremely rocky and peppered with lots of less than conventionally “optimal” food preferences, and whose preferences have usually been what we’d call exceedingly restrictive - she said to me “Mum, I think the way you have been with us with food means we will all be interested in making healthy food when we are older, because you haven’t been hung up about it, and have let us try everything, and never judged. But you provide healthy foods too.” I was blown away. I just busk it - but I have never ever understood or been ok with the concept of forcing anyone to eat anything - that’s plain torture - and suggesting people should eat on a schedule or finish something they hate to eat something they like makes zero sense at all to me. Or telling someone what they should like! I get a lot of criticism from those who believe “making several different meals is making a rod for my own back”, and ‘they’ll never learn’” and so on, but I ignore it. sometimes I do feel a bit defeated by a sea of crisp packets where my heart wants to see fruit peels, home made crumbs and kale stalks (!), BUT my kids are free explorers, as always, and whilst my methods are extremely imperfect, I hope they will generally learn to trust their bodies and wisdom, and to both fuel from and get appropriate joy from food. My youngest baby nearly starved to death at a few weeks old due to a medical need that was going unseen - nothing like that for helping one understand the value of following cues for feeding - at every life stage. As always, don’t underestimate your children - they are graciously primed for life - just offer your love and support and something unexpectedly beautiful will grow. My pitfall is probably finances - meaning we aren’t well off, and so once a child likes a certain food a lot, I am guilty of providing it AND then not providing other alternatives for them to try when they might be open to it, as I don’t want the waste and expense….. so I inadvertently cement what might be passing preferences or passing aversions. This I need to find energy for and continue with creative solutions. Anyway - they all five have a positive relationship with food, and all five like totally different things. We don’t have mealtimes - we often eat together but there’s no pressure. I had food issues in my teens, and I’m happy I have generally avoided passing these on.
I love this much, Abigail!! It really is an ongoing journey, isn't it? And I love your teen daughter's observation! ❤️
We are definitely scared as being judged by the world as bad parents ..fear just robs us
Thank you so much!🤍
I wonder how old your daughter was with the candy?i konda fell of the unschooling boat because i reontroduced forced leanring with reading for my 8 year old and forced math with my 10 year old lol i felt like they needed my regulation 😂❤❤
Hi! She is 12. It seems to be a big age for growth in every way. It's been amazing to see her learn about her body as it changes! ❤- Erika
What a wonderful project. I have 4 boys, ages: 6, 4, 2 and 5months. And I don't want to force them with my anxious pride. These young people sound very stable and lovely 😊❤
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Thank you so much for the work you do! ❤
You are so welcome! ❤️
Yes this is so encouraging enlightening. I look how others homeschool and unschooing is far the best for my kids and family. This is my 5th year and I cannot do the traditional way to homeschool.
My son didn't learn the alphbet until 5.5 . I was so worried about it and tried everything. Then i let go and turned to unschool. He just did it. Now with reading same thing. He's almost 7. He knows all the letter sounds and understands that's how you reas but no interest. He doesn't see the need. He plays video games and can't read them so we're hoping this will connect the dots.
And until then, you get the joy of connection as you read the game text for him. 😃
I love this idea of consent based relationships with our children . I think that parents being afraid of the state, meeting requirements and having a paper trail of "proof" that one is "schooling " can be a barrier to experiencing the freedom and wonder of unschooling. I think it can be tempting to operate out of this fear.
I am curious about their journeys in learning how to read
I think people feel rushed to teah their kids because of fear. Fear of experiences like the ones she mentioned with grandparents and the state. But her mom overcame and thats so awesome
I love to see someone not afraid to live authebtically